the license

One thing that sure is disturbing is the fact that most of these marriages are based on compromise because you do what is expected of you rather than live your life. You learn to love your husband and his family and live life just the way your in-laws expect you to because in most cases, that’s the only choice you have. Since divorce rates are low in the country it is difficult for young couples to say they want to be divorced because the rest of the family steps in to ensure they remain married. Unfortunately for many of these youngsters, the choice of being in love is not theirs alone. They aren’t given the natural choice of falling in love or experiencing the laws of attraction. They simply have to start loving the person they are married to. This surely is a very strange arrangement because many times two absolutely incompatible people remain together for no real reason. What further complicates their lives is the incident of childbirth. Being in a physical relationship after marriage is not a matter of love but compulsion in arranged marriages, then it’s a habit and you live with it. And once there is a child, your life stars to revolve around him/her. This is another reason why many Indian marriages have survived because both parents feel a bond for their child but in reality do not have much of a relationship amongst them. In fact many arranged marriages have even been termed as a ‘license to rape’ because most women are not given a choice, they just follow the only path they know. What’s really saddening is the fact that in many societies girls are never given the same opportunity as their male siblings. And as such their worlds are very small. They grow up believing that their only purpose n life is to marry, bear children and have a family of their own. And this is what most of them readily do in the name of arranged marriages.