still the marraige saga

In the Indian society men and women have always maintained a strange awkwardness between themselves, even as adults. Here it is absolutely normal to find men and women who are virgins till they are not married. Though society is changing of late, marriages have often been left in the hands of guardians, parents, relatives and well-wishers. Till a few years ago, women never ventured out into the job forefront and were happy managing their homes. They were housewives for life. So from being loving daughters who respected her parents every wish, they happily transcended to being wife to a man they had never interacted with. This was widely accepted, as it was the done thing. Most girls were in fact never given the right to choose. A prospective grooms family would come and have a first look at the concerned girl and would let the hopeful parents know their decision after a little pondering. If the proposal was accepted the girl would be considered very lucky and soon the Hindu priest would be summoned to decide upon an auspicious date. If an alliance were not made immediately, the prospective girl would be put up on display a few more times till an alliance was not found. One important thing was that alliances were welcome only from families that belonged to the same religion as well as same sub-caste. This was true in the case of emerging India, where there was no real scope of male female interaction. The government did not even support the co-education system, which kept boys and girls apart from each other all through till the time they were not married off.
The arranged marriage scenario has worked in India from yesteryears. This time, tested formula has in fact even worked wonders for many people. As compared to western countries the divorce rates in India are comparatively very low and this is often a matter of wonder for many. However what goes unnoticed in this so-called marital bliss is the domestic violence that is often a part of many marriages in the Indian society. Of late, there has been a huge change in the way things function, and people prefer marrying a partner they choose rather than depend upon intervention from family members.